"How best to BaZi?" in 3 parts

Having done quite a number of consultations in the past 2 yrs, here’s a few strong “suggestions” for you to optimize (and not negate/waste) a BaZi consultation:

1) Do it as IMMEDIATE as possible

If you *already* feel a consultation is worthy, don’t delay. It’s meant to help you at that point in time and if you keep putting it off, you’re only making it worse for yourself. You can’t change circumstances (really) so learning to work ASAP with what you have and are/will be encountering and with your OWN personality is really crucial. True, you may find some info revealed during a consult may run counter to your current plans but guess what….it’ll only save you time/effort/unnecessary annoyances in the long run. You don’t need to scap all your plans but at least you can make some modifications perhaps to the approach and some finer details.

2) DON’T practise “Selective Listening”

Ah, this is very the common one… After the consultation (which really approaches many aspects of one’s life; BOTH the good and the bad), the client only chooses to act on (and be happy with) what is good and ignores the advice on what’s not so good and the recommendations to change…I find this happening a lot subconsciously and sometimes even on purpose! Many people choose to be in denial of some area(s) they need to change or improve. Look… the universe has given you a chance to understand and make improvements in your life, so make the best of it! True, we need to maximize what skills/talents and good points that we have, but please accept that as human beings (unless you are a Buddha or Buddha equivalent) we all have our flaws that we need to acknowledge and work on. Sure, go celebrate your good points with a night out or partying but hey don’t lose sight of your areas that need improvement. You don’t need to work on all your flaws overnight (it’s simply not possible) but the 1st step is to keep rein of your own negative tendencies esp. the key ones, to prevent further “self-destruction”. And if your “luck” ie circumstances at the moment isn’t so great, don’t be foolhardy and press on with your plans to conquer the world today. You can always conquer the world tomorrow.

3) Having said (2), DON’T BROOD on the negative!

Frequently, with the kind of clients I tend to consult ie. within the scope of the wonderful people I get to meet in this line (or thru my artistic line), most have a feel of some of their flaws already, prior to consultation. The idea is to put perspective on the flaw(s) and to trace, acknowledge and work on the source of the flaw(s). Hey, work on it but move on and don’t keep thinking about how much nicer if you weren’t flawed and were perfect instead. No matter how much you brood and wish it wasn’t you, IT WON’T GO AWAY. Don’t blame the universe, myself as your consultant nor your own very existence. Accept it, work on it and change yourself for the better.

And very importantly…DON’T FORGET THE POSITIVE! Your strengths, talents and good points. It’s all there too highlighted to you during a consult. Count your blessings of your own existence.. and for the chance you’ve been given to make the best of your earthly existence in this world. Also, never forget just how precious your very existence/contribution already is to your family, loved ones, society and the world at large :)