As a consultant, practitioner and indeed life-long student of BaZi myself, I’ve discovered common misconceptions through my study, contemplation, practice and consultations – which seem to pop up often! These pointers perhaps you know already or have come to realize yourself, but I’d like to share them with you anyway:
1) A person’s life is not fixed in stone
As practitioners, we get questioned and challenged on this point all the time. The naysayers out there (and we know there’s quite a few of these negative people out there) say “If already destined, then what’s the point of knowing?”
We study a subject like BaZi to understand the as-is and not the will-be. We come into this world with a blueprint that forms our key personality traits and surroundings. These then interact with what pops into our lives through complex universal workings (the dynamic Luck Pillars and so on).
We change our destinies by changing ourselves first and foremost. This causes our reactions to situations to change (the degree of which depends on how much personality change has been affected). Then, our actions change and as a result our destiny and path change. Even though we can’t change the Luck Pillars – which set the overall tone of our life during that period - the actual manifestation of events and outcomes can be RADICALLY different depending on what has occurred prior to that point.
Thus, in my opinion, there’s no point in using BaZi for questions like “When will I die?” or “Can you tell me whether I’ll be a single-digit multimillionaire by my “wealth pillar” aka LP 49?”. Firstly, you can meet with death even during the BEST Luck Pillar if the circumstances are “ripe” enough and secondly, what you do NOW and PRIOR to LP 49 will set the circumstances rolling as to exactly how much wealth you’ve accumulated by LP 49!
In general, the further the goal, approach and outlook, the more of one’s destiny one can carve out and indeed change.
2) BaZi should NOT be limiting
In my multifaceted lifestyle, I also often commonly come across the positive, super-motivated types (you know, the kind who are all revved-up to do ANYTHING) who refuse to believe there’s any sort of destiny forces at play. These are the ones who refuse to believe there’s a greater cosmos out there besides their own selves. Again, most of points mentioned in (1) above are relevant. Instead of perceiving it as a limitation, we really should use BaZi knowledge to EMPOWER ourselves. We use the information for an understanding of ourselves, our circumstances and also the past.
In our earthly life, we can’t change basic things like our ancestral and parental background – these are set circumstances. But having a good understanding of these really can make a huge difference. After all, family background has a profound influence on our personality. We can then examine the whys and hows and utilize such understanding to affect change for the better. These alone present a wondrous reason for wanting to “know” through BaZi!
What about the Day Master? Yes, having a thorough understanding of the Day Master helps identify our innermost, basic nature. Ms Skeptic might say “Aha! Isn’t that limiting?” But I say that even if Ms Skeptic refuses to admit it, she’ll find that after all the doing and trying, trials and tribulations and intense soul searching, she’ll find that returning to the true Ms Skeptic (as reflected by her Day Master) was pretty much what she was looking for in the first place…
Thursday, April 15, 2010
Thursday, March 11, 2010
The Right Fit for the Right Person
As we know, our survival and livelihood in the modern age that we belong to largely depend not just on our own efforts but also our innate skills and talents. While the right attitude, hard work and training are crucial in determining the success of our professional lives, we cannot deny that we all have different in-born strengths and thus, we cannot be good at everything that we do.
Often times, we find that we are unhappy or dissatisfied with our jobs. We all have our bouts where our career does not develop or grow as quickly as we like, but when this is a long-term situation, then it is likely due to a mismatch between our talents and the career we are embarked upon.
This is why it is extremely practical to turn to BaZi for help. Our BaZi tells us not just the circumstances within our lives but also importantly, our key characteristics, strengths and weaknesses. On a practical level such as our livelihood, BaZi can determine and confirm very accurately how to use our innate skills and talents to make us as successful as possible in our careers or businesses.
Take for instance the Ding fire Day Master. Such a person is usually good at convincing and persuading others. The Ding fire person can build his or her case supported by key facts and figures and as such, has good selling skills. Ding fire people not only make good salespeople but we can extend this also to positions and careers that require constant pitching whether internally within a company or to external clients.
The Yi wood personality needs to work with others and to make use of his or her contacts. The Yi Day Master needs a wide as possible social network. He or she will find that often networking efforts will result in having useful and helpful contacts. These helpful people can then be a source of crucial information and support to the Yi Day Master. Keep in mind that we should not view such leveraging as negative. After all, in the “leveraging”, oftentimes the talents of those *surrounding* the Yi wood male or female will be unearthed and valued by other people as well.
The Geng person, on the other hand, is the ultimate do-er! Trust the Geng personality to get the job done. The Geng Day Master usually does not believe in resting on his or her laurels and is efficient in taking action. As such, the Geng person should not be in a career that only deals with planning, strategy or analysis work. He or she is suited to a job or career that involves hands-on action and requires swift execution!
After all, each Day Master has a particular function to play in human society. Of course, this is just the starting point when it comes to profiling. Our full BaZi chart will tell the rest of the story. The key concept is that when we do what we are naturally good at, we have already almost the battle won. And this makes all the difference when it comes to triumphing in the rat race or dog-eat-dog business world that we thrive in!
Often times, we find that we are unhappy or dissatisfied with our jobs. We all have our bouts where our career does not develop or grow as quickly as we like, but when this is a long-term situation, then it is likely due to a mismatch between our talents and the career we are embarked upon.
This is why it is extremely practical to turn to BaZi for help. Our BaZi tells us not just the circumstances within our lives but also importantly, our key characteristics, strengths and weaknesses. On a practical level such as our livelihood, BaZi can determine and confirm very accurately how to use our innate skills and talents to make us as successful as possible in our careers or businesses.
Take for instance the Ding fire Day Master. Such a person is usually good at convincing and persuading others. The Ding fire person can build his or her case supported by key facts and figures and as such, has good selling skills. Ding fire people not only make good salespeople but we can extend this also to positions and careers that require constant pitching whether internally within a company or to external clients.
The Yi wood personality needs to work with others and to make use of his or her contacts. The Yi Day Master needs a wide as possible social network. He or she will find that often networking efforts will result in having useful and helpful contacts. These helpful people can then be a source of crucial information and support to the Yi Day Master. Keep in mind that we should not view such leveraging as negative. After all, in the “leveraging”, oftentimes the talents of those *surrounding* the Yi wood male or female will be unearthed and valued by other people as well.
The Geng person, on the other hand, is the ultimate do-er! Trust the Geng personality to get the job done. The Geng Day Master usually does not believe in resting on his or her laurels and is efficient in taking action. As such, the Geng person should not be in a career that only deals with planning, strategy or analysis work. He or she is suited to a job or career that involves hands-on action and requires swift execution!
After all, each Day Master has a particular function to play in human society. Of course, this is just the starting point when it comes to profiling. Our full BaZi chart will tell the rest of the story. The key concept is that when we do what we are naturally good at, we have already almost the battle won. And this makes all the difference when it comes to triumphing in the rat race or dog-eat-dog business world that we thrive in!
Wednesday, January 20, 2010
Brief Outlook for 12 Animal Signs in the Metal Tiger Year
Brief Outlook for 12 Animal Signs in the Metal Tiger Year
Notes:
i) For more info in addition to the animal sign of your birth year, check to see what other animal signs are in your complete BaZi chart.
ii) How the year would *specifically* unfold and affect a particular individual would depend on the full interactions within his/her BaZi chart.
Tiger
An unsettled and uncomfortable year for the Tiger. There’ll be many unavoidable changes. Keep a healthy perspective as these changes and movement may very well be for the better. However, you’re forced to stay on-the-go, with little time to rest, rejuvenate and consolidate. In this state, it’s extremely important to stay as healthy and safe as possible since illness and accidents are indicated.
Rabbit
An excellent year for the Rabbit. You can do no wrong as you’ve got the Midas touch this year. Even mistakes and bad situations will turn out fine as you’re THAT lucky this year! Look to powerful, male noblemen to help you. Single ladies, this is a good year to find that dashing, powerful and capable man. However, both sexes need to be careful of sexual indiscretion (particularly those married!)
Dragon
A mediocre year ahead for the Dragon. Problems arise that will cause you alarm, stress and discomfort. Those with elderly family members need to be vigilant of the health of these members. Be careful when dealing with legal matters and beware of vengeful people whose feet you may have stepped on in the past.
Snake
The Snake experiences a good year in 2010. The Snake will be a workaholic this year! A good year for strategic moves and profitable investment in business and wealth endeavours. Take a moderate, less aggressive approach to reap benefits. Look to females for help. However, you may feel like you’re alone sometimes when unexpected situations arise. Brush off the minor issues with gossip and petty people.
Horse
Horse, you’re one of the luckiest animal signs this year! There are helpful people around (including some new contacts who you’ll meet). You’ll exude power, respect and authority this Metal Tiger year. A year of rapid growth, breakthroughs and unexpected luck! Your wealth and financial situations also look rosy.
Goat
After a bumpy year, the Goat not only experiences a respite but will have a generally good year. There’ll be noble people around plus you’ll be a good mood during the year. Happy news, celebrations and pleasant circumstances prevail. Some goats will have the opportunity to change jobs; thorough due diligence will be needed if such opportunities arise. Minor injury is indicated plus elderly family members may be in poor health. Keep a eye out over your wallet and spending will be rather high this year.
Monkey
While you, Monkey, are in direct conflict with the Tiger year, count your blessings as you have some good stars in your Life Palace to buffer the effects of clashing the year! You have noblemen luck and some powerful stars that will help relief the issues and obstacles that arise. Some plans and goals may be thwarted. Take care of your physical health, be careful driving and stay clear of deep-sea activities. Unavoidable movement and travelling are in the cards. Large expenditure are unavoidable so proactively plan to spend on things (eg. education, property) that either appreciate in value or that increase your self-worth.
Rooster
The Rooster’s run of good luck continues in the Metal Tiger year! You exude power and influence; contacts and people run to your aid when you need them! You can almost do no wrong this year with your skills, decision-making and acumen. Some minor accidents are indicated. In some circumstances, accept that things may not work out as initially projected/planned.
Dog
A mixed year for the Dog. A good year for those in creative and artistic lines; particularly those who do behind-the-scenes work. A good year to learn a new skill or to develop a hidden talent. Dog, you’ll continue to feel misunderstood and lonely even though you’ll meet new people and expand your network this year. Take care while driving and during physical activity as physical injury in indicated.
Boar
A good year in store! The Boar’s network of contacts and associates will widen this year; some of whom will become your noble people. You’ll have increase wealth opportunities and recognition this year! A year of changes for the Boar. Don’t let the minor gossip arising this year affect you. Some losses are indicated while being on the move so be vigilant during travel.
Rat
A generally poor year for the Rat. Rat, you lack lucky stars this year so you have to persevere, maintain status quo and lay low until the Rabbit year. This is strong indication of injury and accidents so be very careful driving and restrain in participating in dangerous and rough physical activity. In addition, there is risk of contracting STDs.
Ox
A rather good year is in store for Ox. Those single and looking will find it a “productive” year. Your luck is mainly in the good and loving relationships with those around you. A year of good social relationships…and fun! The biggest drawback is the tendency to get sick and be unduly worried over small matters.
Notes:
i) For more info in addition to the animal sign of your birth year, check to see what other animal signs are in your complete BaZi chart.
ii) How the year would *specifically* unfold and affect a particular individual would depend on the full interactions within his/her BaZi chart.
Tiger
An unsettled and uncomfortable year for the Tiger. There’ll be many unavoidable changes. Keep a healthy perspective as these changes and movement may very well be for the better. However, you’re forced to stay on-the-go, with little time to rest, rejuvenate and consolidate. In this state, it’s extremely important to stay as healthy and safe as possible since illness and accidents are indicated.
Rabbit
An excellent year for the Rabbit. You can do no wrong as you’ve got the Midas touch this year. Even mistakes and bad situations will turn out fine as you’re THAT lucky this year! Look to powerful, male noblemen to help you. Single ladies, this is a good year to find that dashing, powerful and capable man. However, both sexes need to be careful of sexual indiscretion (particularly those married!)
Dragon
A mediocre year ahead for the Dragon. Problems arise that will cause you alarm, stress and discomfort. Those with elderly family members need to be vigilant of the health of these members. Be careful when dealing with legal matters and beware of vengeful people whose feet you may have stepped on in the past.
Snake
The Snake experiences a good year in 2010. The Snake will be a workaholic this year! A good year for strategic moves and profitable investment in business and wealth endeavours. Take a moderate, less aggressive approach to reap benefits. Look to females for help. However, you may feel like you’re alone sometimes when unexpected situations arise. Brush off the minor issues with gossip and petty people.
Horse
Horse, you’re one of the luckiest animal signs this year! There are helpful people around (including some new contacts who you’ll meet). You’ll exude power, respect and authority this Metal Tiger year. A year of rapid growth, breakthroughs and unexpected luck! Your wealth and financial situations also look rosy.
Goat
After a bumpy year, the Goat not only experiences a respite but will have a generally good year. There’ll be noble people around plus you’ll be a good mood during the year. Happy news, celebrations and pleasant circumstances prevail. Some goats will have the opportunity to change jobs; thorough due diligence will be needed if such opportunities arise. Minor injury is indicated plus elderly family members may be in poor health. Keep a eye out over your wallet and spending will be rather high this year.
Monkey
While you, Monkey, are in direct conflict with the Tiger year, count your blessings as you have some good stars in your Life Palace to buffer the effects of clashing the year! You have noblemen luck and some powerful stars that will help relief the issues and obstacles that arise. Some plans and goals may be thwarted. Take care of your physical health, be careful driving and stay clear of deep-sea activities. Unavoidable movement and travelling are in the cards. Large expenditure are unavoidable so proactively plan to spend on things (eg. education, property) that either appreciate in value or that increase your self-worth.
Rooster
The Rooster’s run of good luck continues in the Metal Tiger year! You exude power and influence; contacts and people run to your aid when you need them! You can almost do no wrong this year with your skills, decision-making and acumen. Some minor accidents are indicated. In some circumstances, accept that things may not work out as initially projected/planned.
Dog
A mixed year for the Dog. A good year for those in creative and artistic lines; particularly those who do behind-the-scenes work. A good year to learn a new skill or to develop a hidden talent. Dog, you’ll continue to feel misunderstood and lonely even though you’ll meet new people and expand your network this year. Take care while driving and during physical activity as physical injury in indicated.
Boar
A good year in store! The Boar’s network of contacts and associates will widen this year; some of whom will become your noble people. You’ll have increase wealth opportunities and recognition this year! A year of changes for the Boar. Don’t let the minor gossip arising this year affect you. Some losses are indicated while being on the move so be vigilant during travel.
Rat
A generally poor year for the Rat. Rat, you lack lucky stars this year so you have to persevere, maintain status quo and lay low until the Rabbit year. This is strong indication of injury and accidents so be very careful driving and restrain in participating in dangerous and rough physical activity. In addition, there is risk of contracting STDs.
Ox
A rather good year is in store for Ox. Those single and looking will find it a “productive” year. Your luck is mainly in the good and loving relationships with those around you. A year of good social relationships…and fun! The biggest drawback is the tendency to get sick and be unduly worried over small matters.
2010: The Year of the Metal Tiger
2010: The Year of the Metal Tiger
By Toh Kong Eu
Note:
The following is a general forecast of what year 2010 has in store. You’ll likely see these trends around you – for personal effects, your entire BaZi chart has to be examined.
The Year of the Metal Tiger…a dynamic, aggressive year! With Yang Metal clashing the Tiger (whose main qi is Yang Wood), it’ll be an unstable year with many changes and movement. The good news is that at least we’ll see some growth (although limited), as opposed to the stagnating Earth Ox year just past. Similarly, on the world stage, signs of economic recovery have appearred and will trickle through 2010.
Wood in the study of the all-important 5 elements of Chinese Metaphysics indicates growth. However, the presence of Metal impedes growth- what we see is a tussle between growth and control/regulations/order. This is also a tussle between compassion and righteousness. Often, world situations will be where “what-is-right” needs to be done, ignoring basic human compassion and kindness. The tone of the year is a clashing one where there’ll be differences in opinion which will lead to disagreements and betrayal.
Indeed it’s an unstable year… On a personal level, the strategy will be to EMBRACE change. To flow with the energies of the year, take this year to do different things and to do things differently. Cut away the old in your life and take on new initiatives and directions with your personal goals and aspirations. Be exciting; be different; be aggressive! Another strategy will be to stay on the move and constantly look for new opportunities.
The Tiger is one of what is termed a “growth” animal. While indeed Yang Metal sitting atop the Tiger can signify growth impediment, the good news is that we can also interpret this “impediment” as something necessary for improvement for the future. In other words, view the changes this year necessary for a better future. Take on the changes as they come!
As far as interpersonal relationships go, it’s a year of aggression and being confrontational. You’ll find that people will have strong differences in opinion. As such, communications will be tense and fiery. So what to do? Take charge! Use the aggression to generate useful ideas and reveal breakthroughs – while keeping your temper under control.
The clash between metal and wood indicates the prevalence of violence, injury and sudden/shocking events. Though morbid, there’ll be a higher percentage of accidents and violent deaths this year. Injury to the head and all four limbs are particularly heightened. Metal organs such as the large intestines and lungs are also at risk of. Those who have a Monkey (or more) in the BaZi chart as well as those having bedrooms or house main doors in the Southwest and Northeast sectors need to be extra vigilant.
The element most needed to buffer the Metal/Wood clash is water. Not only those whose astrological charts with water will benefit, but we should also “flow like water” to make the best of the year. Literally takes things as they come, be adaptable, use wisdom in making decisions and communicate clearly. Think before you speak.
The year of the Metal Tiger will prove most beneficial for water industries like travel, communication and logistics. Industries involving strategic planning will also benefit. Worst hit will be wood industries like agriculture, project development and creative industries like writing, design and advertising.
As fire qi is heightened this year (especially from the middle of the year onwards), those of you in fire industries should experience a good year. Fire businesses include beauty, visual media, performing arts, electrical/electronic goods and high-tech gadgets. Earth industries eg. insurance and property will be strong but hard work will be required. Wealth opportunities are abundant but hard work, preparation and perseverance will be required. The best strategy is to think long-term as plentiful rewards will be there after the toil.
Metal industries eg machinery, banking and finance will be negatively affected this year. Those involved in metal industries need to maximise the autumns months of August to October because the metal element is weakened this year. Those in metal industries will find there are simply too much scope to cover and many aspects to manage when you’re embarking on new projects.
Financial instruments are of course collectively group in the Metal group. As these are affected, financial markets (which are categorized as the Water element since metal produces water) will continue to be fundamentally weak although a sentimentally-boosted market should prevail for most of the year.
By Toh Kong Eu
Note:
The following is a general forecast of what year 2010 has in store. You’ll likely see these trends around you – for personal effects, your entire BaZi chart has to be examined.
The Year of the Metal Tiger…a dynamic, aggressive year! With Yang Metal clashing the Tiger (whose main qi is Yang Wood), it’ll be an unstable year with many changes and movement. The good news is that at least we’ll see some growth (although limited), as opposed to the stagnating Earth Ox year just past. Similarly, on the world stage, signs of economic recovery have appearred and will trickle through 2010.
Wood in the study of the all-important 5 elements of Chinese Metaphysics indicates growth. However, the presence of Metal impedes growth- what we see is a tussle between growth and control/regulations/order. This is also a tussle between compassion and righteousness. Often, world situations will be where “what-is-right” needs to be done, ignoring basic human compassion and kindness. The tone of the year is a clashing one where there’ll be differences in opinion which will lead to disagreements and betrayal.
Indeed it’s an unstable year… On a personal level, the strategy will be to EMBRACE change. To flow with the energies of the year, take this year to do different things and to do things differently. Cut away the old in your life and take on new initiatives and directions with your personal goals and aspirations. Be exciting; be different; be aggressive! Another strategy will be to stay on the move and constantly look for new opportunities.
The Tiger is one of what is termed a “growth” animal. While indeed Yang Metal sitting atop the Tiger can signify growth impediment, the good news is that we can also interpret this “impediment” as something necessary for improvement for the future. In other words, view the changes this year necessary for a better future. Take on the changes as they come!
As far as interpersonal relationships go, it’s a year of aggression and being confrontational. You’ll find that people will have strong differences in opinion. As such, communications will be tense and fiery. So what to do? Take charge! Use the aggression to generate useful ideas and reveal breakthroughs – while keeping your temper under control.
The clash between metal and wood indicates the prevalence of violence, injury and sudden/shocking events. Though morbid, there’ll be a higher percentage of accidents and violent deaths this year. Injury to the head and all four limbs are particularly heightened. Metal organs such as the large intestines and lungs are also at risk of. Those who have a Monkey (or more) in the BaZi chart as well as those having bedrooms or house main doors in the Southwest and Northeast sectors need to be extra vigilant.
The element most needed to buffer the Metal/Wood clash is water. Not only those whose astrological charts with water will benefit, but we should also “flow like water” to make the best of the year. Literally takes things as they come, be adaptable, use wisdom in making decisions and communicate clearly. Think before you speak.
The year of the Metal Tiger will prove most beneficial for water industries like travel, communication and logistics. Industries involving strategic planning will also benefit. Worst hit will be wood industries like agriculture, project development and creative industries like writing, design and advertising.
As fire qi is heightened this year (especially from the middle of the year onwards), those of you in fire industries should experience a good year. Fire businesses include beauty, visual media, performing arts, electrical/electronic goods and high-tech gadgets. Earth industries eg. insurance and property will be strong but hard work will be required. Wealth opportunities are abundant but hard work, preparation and perseverance will be required. The best strategy is to think long-term as plentiful rewards will be there after the toil.
Metal industries eg machinery, banking and finance will be negatively affected this year. Those involved in metal industries need to maximise the autumns months of August to October because the metal element is weakened this year. Those in metal industries will find there are simply too much scope to cover and many aspects to manage when you’re embarking on new projects.
Financial instruments are of course collectively group in the Metal group. As these are affected, financial markets (which are categorized as the Water element since metal produces water) will continue to be fundamentally weak although a sentimentally-boosted market should prevail for most of the year.
Friday, November 13, 2009
The Modern Relationship
One interesting aspect of applying BaZi, a science that was formulated in ancient China, is in modifying its application to the 21st century world that we dwell in. BaZi as we know, is pretty much all about balance. How this balance applies and how this balance has changed are the key concepts underlying this week’s article.
Ask any BaZi consultant and you’ll find that relationship issues (the romantic kind) are among the most common discussed during a BaZi reading. I often find in my practice and in speaking to fellow consultants that impractical (and oftentimes ignorant) expectations and views are behind the relationship woes of the many clients. We all know the roles of women have evolved tremendously in the past 50 years or so. Women nowadays have risen to be successful corporate, political leaders, business people and can hold enormous influence and power. How do we relate such change and progress to the concept of balance in the BaZi chart?
The factor that denotes capability and ability to express and use talents and skills is the Output element. As such the stronger, more vibrant and better quality the Output element, the better the person is able to express oneself, perform and in general, get things done. All these are, of course, crucial factors for success as defined by modern society. Alas, too strong an Output also puts stress on the Influence element—which for women denotes the husband or romantic other half.
As such, a common occurrence for successful women is that they tend to be too opinionated, aggressive and expressive – all qualities that, we have to realistically admit, diminish the traditional role of men as the decision-maker and dominant party in a relationship. But of course, the “traditional” role of men also encompassed being completely responsible of the well-being of their partners and children in terms of protection, security and basic needs, while being in charge of projects and day-to-day endeavours.
As such, the balance has changed. As evolution can’t be help, the wise approach is to go with the flow and modify our own expectations when it comes to relationships. Along with the change in the “power” balance between men and women, we have to accept the inevitable change of not just financial responsibility, but also in terms of who gets what done However, many women who are strong individuals and who need to accomplish their own goals other than the traditional ones of being a wife, mother and homemaker, commonly want the best of both worlds. They want to pursue a successful career and yet hope to be completely coddled and taken care of by their man. However, we know from a BaZi (and practical) standpoint this does NOT work!
If you have traits that make you a successful corporate, business or powerful woman, chances are you’ll end up overshadowing your man, find it difficult to find someone who matches your caliber or have difficulty maintaining your relationship. In such a case, you’ll find you need to lower your expectations and accept that you may need to be the breadwinner or contribute to the financial aspect of the relationship (at least to some extent).
Similarly, guys who are the archetype of the new-age, sensitive male—for example, one who is able to relate to feelings and sentiment, be nurturing and caring—also find that they’re unable to completely “wear the pants” in a relationship. Such males tend to have fleeting relationships and have trouble maintaining long-term relationships. And since they literally have trouble controlling their Wealth element (which stands for literal wealth, management style and ahem, also their “better” half), then financially they tend to be unstable or have difficulty accumulating wealth.
So ladies, be prepared to have to bear some financial responsibility in general if you’re into the new-age kind of guy (or alternatively, if you’re the ambitious sort when it comes to career). And similarly, guys who fit this mould need to accept that they can’t be in charge of all decisions nor be in complete control. Such understanding, compromise and practice from both genders are needed to keep the “modern” relationship alive and well!
Ask any BaZi consultant and you’ll find that relationship issues (the romantic kind) are among the most common discussed during a BaZi reading. I often find in my practice and in speaking to fellow consultants that impractical (and oftentimes ignorant) expectations and views are behind the relationship woes of the many clients. We all know the roles of women have evolved tremendously in the past 50 years or so. Women nowadays have risen to be successful corporate, political leaders, business people and can hold enormous influence and power. How do we relate such change and progress to the concept of balance in the BaZi chart?
The factor that denotes capability and ability to express and use talents and skills is the Output element. As such the stronger, more vibrant and better quality the Output element, the better the person is able to express oneself, perform and in general, get things done. All these are, of course, crucial factors for success as defined by modern society. Alas, too strong an Output also puts stress on the Influence element—which for women denotes the husband or romantic other half.
As such, a common occurrence for successful women is that they tend to be too opinionated, aggressive and expressive – all qualities that, we have to realistically admit, diminish the traditional role of men as the decision-maker and dominant party in a relationship. But of course, the “traditional” role of men also encompassed being completely responsible of the well-being of their partners and children in terms of protection, security and basic needs, while being in charge of projects and day-to-day endeavours.
As such, the balance has changed. As evolution can’t be help, the wise approach is to go with the flow and modify our own expectations when it comes to relationships. Along with the change in the “power” balance between men and women, we have to accept the inevitable change of not just financial responsibility, but also in terms of who gets what done However, many women who are strong individuals and who need to accomplish their own goals other than the traditional ones of being a wife, mother and homemaker, commonly want the best of both worlds. They want to pursue a successful career and yet hope to be completely coddled and taken care of by their man. However, we know from a BaZi (and practical) standpoint this does NOT work!
If you have traits that make you a successful corporate, business or powerful woman, chances are you’ll end up overshadowing your man, find it difficult to find someone who matches your caliber or have difficulty maintaining your relationship. In such a case, you’ll find you need to lower your expectations and accept that you may need to be the breadwinner or contribute to the financial aspect of the relationship (at least to some extent).
Similarly, guys who are the archetype of the new-age, sensitive male—for example, one who is able to relate to feelings and sentiment, be nurturing and caring—also find that they’re unable to completely “wear the pants” in a relationship. Such males tend to have fleeting relationships and have trouble maintaining long-term relationships. And since they literally have trouble controlling their Wealth element (which stands for literal wealth, management style and ahem, also their “better” half), then financially they tend to be unstable or have difficulty accumulating wealth.
So ladies, be prepared to have to bear some financial responsibility in general if you’re into the new-age kind of guy (or alternatively, if you’re the ambitious sort when it comes to career). And similarly, guys who fit this mould need to accept that they can’t be in charge of all decisions nor be in complete control. Such understanding, compromise and practice from both genders are needed to keep the “modern” relationship alive and well!
Thursday, October 29, 2009
Thriving through the rest of the Earth Ox Year
*I've been intending to write this since the *middle* of this year, oops. But i guess better late than never ...*
Time sure flies by, even in this plodding Earth Ox year… We’re already almost in the last quarter of this Chinese Solar Year and initial plans are already afoot to welcome the upcoming Metal Tiger year from the perspective of astrology and changing feng shui energies. The Earth Ox year has certainly been a challenging and confusing year for many. Alas, the reality is that we still need to face the remainder of the next four months; so let’s revisit some key reminders (mostly based on simple 5 element deductions) on how we can make the best of the next 4 months or so.
The Earth Ox year is best visualized by a pile of cold, stacking earth. Hardly a picture of growth, rosy health or clarity in thought! The excess of the earth element is difficult for most of us in terms of BaZi; even those whose favourable element is earth have likely found this a challenging year. The year has brought with it the danger of disease, natural disasters and slow growth in the world economy. While most of us can’t really expect to achieve successful fruition of our endeavours this year, nonetheless we should think long term. This is a good year to *start* new endeavours and *initiate* new ideas and goals. The earth allows us to “germinate” and “seed” new projects and take a new direction in life.
However, as plants take time to grow, we should also guard against having too high expectations of quick success and achievement. In fact, if you haven’t already discovered by now, longer term visions, goals and plans work much better this year than endeavours that thrive on rapid turnover and quick results—this is a good way to work *with* the earth element. Also, any endeavour that involves the wood element such as teaching, designing, agriculture— most of anything that involves growth and creativity-- will thrive. A dose of creativity in any endeavour will ease any blockage or obstacle that we encounter.
As fire energy is outwardly weak this year, using the qualities of fire will also help. The fire element will warm-up the cold earth, making it slightly easier to manage. So, we should stay passionate and joyful. Look for and do things that make you happy. Stay happy! As the Ox (being a graveyard animal sign) also makes us more contemplative and inward, this provides a great opportunity to explore spirituality and perhaps even religion (since these belong to the fire element). Invest in self-cultivation and study. Look for ways to improve your life and its current circumstances, to the extent of maybe even taking a new direction if such a time has arrived!
The excess earth not only makes us contemplative but also blurs communication while causing excessive stress and worry. This is especially so with charts that already have an excess of metal and water. In addition, those with excess earth will also feel pressured and misunderstood; even to the extent of being paranoid and suspicious. As one key benefit of understanding astrology is taking stock of what is happening internally, those afflicted with such excess earth should always look at the brighter side of things and acknowledge that most of one’s fear, suspicion and negative thinking this year can be mostly or perhaps even entirely baseless. As the Earth Ox is hardly conducive for clear communication, it is better to be open, clear and forthright when communicating since the chance for miscommunication is already so high.
Lastly, we need to be continuously mindful of health as the Ox has brought increased health risks and higher mortality rates. We should observe good personal hygiene, take precaution of health risks (such as H1N1), eat healthy, and also get adequate exercise and sleep. To stay psychologically healthy, we also need to be physically healthy!
Time sure flies by, even in this plodding Earth Ox year… We’re already almost in the last quarter of this Chinese Solar Year and initial plans are already afoot to welcome the upcoming Metal Tiger year from the perspective of astrology and changing feng shui energies. The Earth Ox year has certainly been a challenging and confusing year for many. Alas, the reality is that we still need to face the remainder of the next four months; so let’s revisit some key reminders (mostly based on simple 5 element deductions) on how we can make the best of the next 4 months or so.
The Earth Ox year is best visualized by a pile of cold, stacking earth. Hardly a picture of growth, rosy health or clarity in thought! The excess of the earth element is difficult for most of us in terms of BaZi; even those whose favourable element is earth have likely found this a challenging year. The year has brought with it the danger of disease, natural disasters and slow growth in the world economy. While most of us can’t really expect to achieve successful fruition of our endeavours this year, nonetheless we should think long term. This is a good year to *start* new endeavours and *initiate* new ideas and goals. The earth allows us to “germinate” and “seed” new projects and take a new direction in life.
However, as plants take time to grow, we should also guard against having too high expectations of quick success and achievement. In fact, if you haven’t already discovered by now, longer term visions, goals and plans work much better this year than endeavours that thrive on rapid turnover and quick results—this is a good way to work *with* the earth element. Also, any endeavour that involves the wood element such as teaching, designing, agriculture— most of anything that involves growth and creativity-- will thrive. A dose of creativity in any endeavour will ease any blockage or obstacle that we encounter.
As fire energy is outwardly weak this year, using the qualities of fire will also help. The fire element will warm-up the cold earth, making it slightly easier to manage. So, we should stay passionate and joyful. Look for and do things that make you happy. Stay happy! As the Ox (being a graveyard animal sign) also makes us more contemplative and inward, this provides a great opportunity to explore spirituality and perhaps even religion (since these belong to the fire element). Invest in self-cultivation and study. Look for ways to improve your life and its current circumstances, to the extent of maybe even taking a new direction if such a time has arrived!
The excess earth not only makes us contemplative but also blurs communication while causing excessive stress and worry. This is especially so with charts that already have an excess of metal and water. In addition, those with excess earth will also feel pressured and misunderstood; even to the extent of being paranoid and suspicious. As one key benefit of understanding astrology is taking stock of what is happening internally, those afflicted with such excess earth should always look at the brighter side of things and acknowledge that most of one’s fear, suspicion and negative thinking this year can be mostly or perhaps even entirely baseless. As the Earth Ox is hardly conducive for clear communication, it is better to be open, clear and forthright when communicating since the chance for miscommunication is already so high.
Lastly, we need to be continuously mindful of health as the Ox has brought increased health risks and higher mortality rates. We should observe good personal hygiene, take precaution of health risks (such as H1N1), eat healthy, and also get adequate exercise and sleep. To stay psychologically healthy, we also need to be physically healthy!
Friday, September 11, 2009
To Clash or Not to Clash - that is the question
Let’s take a look at the concept of the “clash” of the Earthly Branches in BaZi. Recall that each natal BaZi chart contains four Earthly Branches -- namely the four animal signs in the Year, Month, Day and Hour Pillars (in addition, there are the Earthly Branches of the Luck and Annual Pillars). A clash to the Earthly Branches means that one (or more) of the Earthly Branches encounters a direct, opposing branch. This can occur within the natal BaZi chart itself or between the branches in a natal chart with the Luck or Annual Pillars.
Now, the main thing is that a clash of course is not to be feared and does not necessary mean a bad thing! In general, however, clashes do indicate changes, usually abrupt and obvious ones. As clashes indicate head-on changes, their effects are obvious and typically obviously felt – so it is a good idea to usually prepare ourselves when we predict a clash occurring either in the Luck or Annual Pillars.
Whether a clash is deemed good or not is usually dependent on how “favourable” the victorious element of a clash is. For example, in the clash of a Rat (water element) and a Horse (whose main qi is fire), the victorious branch is typically the Rat (as water puts out fire). This is one determinant. We also have to examine whether the more favourable element is removed or introduced. Continuing with the Rat/Horse example, let’s assume that there is a Rat branch in a natal BaZi chart and a BaZi evaluation tells us that the element of Ding fire is needed. In the Luck Pillar of the Horse, generally the introduction of fire via the Horse, even though it is “rejected” by the Rat (hence, manifesting as the Rat/Horse clash), is good for the person in question. There will be unsettling changes in store of course…but the discomfort will be beneficial for the person’s life.
For today’s article, let’s also examine the effects of the clash to different parts of the BaZi chart. As the Year Branch indicates the external-most part of the chart, a clash here indicates a change in the external environment of the person in question. These external changes can manifest in circumstances as relocation, migration or travel for the person undergoing the clash. A Clash in the Year Branch can also mean accidents or mishaps which hurt the external body. As the Year Pillar also denote the relationship with one’s grandparents and childhood friends, a clash here may also mean separation from (or in some cases, the death of) such parties.
The Month Branch is the foremost indication of one’s key character since it denotes the immediate family environment when one is growing up. As such, any clash here means not only a crucial change in the person’s key attitudes but possibly a change in the parental home or parental relationship. In addition, as the Month Pillar is also an indicator of one’s immediate work environment and relationship with the superior, a clash here denotes such a corresponding change – he or she may be transferred to a different department or alternatively, his or her superior may be replaced!
A clash to the Day Branch is usually much-feared as it typically denotes marital or spousal problems. However, a clash to the Day Branch could simply mean a change in residence or renovations to the home. Alternatively, it could also mean hurting the lower part of the body or perhaps even surgery.
Parents especially, should be wary of a clash to the Hour Branch as this denotes issues (for example, separation) with one’s children. As one’s subordinates are also akin to one’s children, a clash to the Hour Branch can also denote a turnover in subordinates or even the type of work that a person does. Besides these, a clash to the Hour Branch can cause a feeling of unease and unsettling thoughts for the person experiencing the clash.
Now, the main thing is that a clash of course is not to be feared and does not necessary mean a bad thing! In general, however, clashes do indicate changes, usually abrupt and obvious ones. As clashes indicate head-on changes, their effects are obvious and typically obviously felt – so it is a good idea to usually prepare ourselves when we predict a clash occurring either in the Luck or Annual Pillars.
Whether a clash is deemed good or not is usually dependent on how “favourable” the victorious element of a clash is. For example, in the clash of a Rat (water element) and a Horse (whose main qi is fire), the victorious branch is typically the Rat (as water puts out fire). This is one determinant. We also have to examine whether the more favourable element is removed or introduced. Continuing with the Rat/Horse example, let’s assume that there is a Rat branch in a natal BaZi chart and a BaZi evaluation tells us that the element of Ding fire is needed. In the Luck Pillar of the Horse, generally the introduction of fire via the Horse, even though it is “rejected” by the Rat (hence, manifesting as the Rat/Horse clash), is good for the person in question. There will be unsettling changes in store of course…but the discomfort will be beneficial for the person’s life.
For today’s article, let’s also examine the effects of the clash to different parts of the BaZi chart. As the Year Branch indicates the external-most part of the chart, a clash here indicates a change in the external environment of the person in question. These external changes can manifest in circumstances as relocation, migration or travel for the person undergoing the clash. A Clash in the Year Branch can also mean accidents or mishaps which hurt the external body. As the Year Pillar also denote the relationship with one’s grandparents and childhood friends, a clash here may also mean separation from (or in some cases, the death of) such parties.
The Month Branch is the foremost indication of one’s key character since it denotes the immediate family environment when one is growing up. As such, any clash here means not only a crucial change in the person’s key attitudes but possibly a change in the parental home or parental relationship. In addition, as the Month Pillar is also an indicator of one’s immediate work environment and relationship with the superior, a clash here denotes such a corresponding change – he or she may be transferred to a different department or alternatively, his or her superior may be replaced!
A clash to the Day Branch is usually much-feared as it typically denotes marital or spousal problems. However, a clash to the Day Branch could simply mean a change in residence or renovations to the home. Alternatively, it could also mean hurting the lower part of the body or perhaps even surgery.
Parents especially, should be wary of a clash to the Hour Branch as this denotes issues (for example, separation) with one’s children. As one’s subordinates are also akin to one’s children, a clash to the Hour Branch can also denote a turnover in subordinates or even the type of work that a person does. Besides these, a clash to the Hour Branch can cause a feeling of unease and unsettling thoughts for the person experiencing the clash.
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